Sticking with what’s apparently become my post theme as of late, there’s yet another list I’ve been compiling over the years. I like questions. So much that I collect them. Believe it or not, I’ve gathered over a thousand of ’em.
I’m not sure I remember how it started, but the collection probably comes out of a fascination with people’s stories. That, and my journalism background I suppose. I enjoy learning more than just the basics answered by, “What do you do for a living?” and “Where do you work?” I think many people would be quite surprised by what they don’t know about others in their lives simply because they’ve never asked the questions.
I’ve been known to bring “the list” to parties or on outings and trips. As groups of people ask and answer the questions, there are all sorts of reactions. You hear a lot of, “I never knew that!” and “How come you’ve never told me that!” Some people love the list and beg for a copy of it. Others are less than appreciative. For those folks, the response is heavy sighing and sometimes even groaning when the list shows up. I suppose the type of response may say something about a person’s personality. How well do you know yourself? How comfortable are you with sharing yourself? Are you an introvert or extrovert? Although none of the questions probes into deeply personal territory, it does help to have a certain level of trust with those asking the questions.
Back in my single days, I often claimed that I wouldn’t marry someone until he answered every question. Well, Brent endured a lot of them, but I didn’t put him through the entire one thousand! Just the same, I think the art of asking questions can be a huge asset in the dating process. My guess is it’s no less important even years into marriage. I hope Brent and I are mindful and curious enough to ask one another questions all our lives. I love the thought of us continuing to know each other more deeply even as we grow old together.
So, want to have some fun? Take some time with your spouse, your friend, your relative or child this weekend. Pull out this sampler of questions and see if any responses surprises you. And if you’re bold enough, maybe you’ll even want to comment with an answer or two right here!
- I would like to learn how to:
- Three of my favorite things (not people) in life are:
- The biggest crowd I’ve spoken to:
- When I have a really good day, it’s usually because:
- The best advice I recall receiving:
- When I was a kid, I loved to play:
- The most difficult thing I had to deal with yesterday:
- What I know and believe about God:
- I chose my line of work because:
- In 10 years, I would like to be:
- A description of my spiritual life as a child.
- A description of my perfect weather day: