I’m still a newlywed (so what do I know), but I couldn’t help but feel a bit saddened when someone recently related how a colleague went on a trip without her husband and never called home once. Didn’t miss him and apparently he didn’t miss her enough to pick up the phone. I’m just 15 months into marriage mind you, but I hope that never describes this girl’s marriage. We’re definitely not locked at the hip, but we actually enjoy spending a lot of time together.
Last night, as our heads hit our pillows, I asked Brent, “Do you think the fact that we stick our iPhones under our fitted sheets every night makes us geeks?” He simply said, “Probably.” Ok, I’ll get to the whole iPhone in the bed thing, but my first thought was, “There is something comforting about recognizing we’re both geeks and we’re both ok with it.”
I love that my husband likes to do some of the same nerdy things I do. How many husbands actually suggest writing a blog together with their spouse? We even share a silly iPhone game ap as our favorite addiction (“Bejeweled”…and don’t even start). Don’t get me wrong, we have plenty of differences. (I could name more than a few. Sometimes they add some spice to life and sometimes they are a little challenging, but let’s save that for a future blog.) On the other hand, we love that there are so many things we enjoy doing together.
I think my pastor had a point yesterday when he suggested I go ahead and get the hip waders. He said to look at it as an investment in my marriage – a way to join Brent in his love for fly fishing. It could mean many adventures together. I don’t know if I’ll spring for the waders or not, but the idea of investing in our marriage is sticking with me. It’s like the way Brent watches “24” with me…because I enjoy the show. Or I watch basketball with him because it’s his favorite sport. Is that just because we’re newlyweds?
People warn us this will change – that we’ll stop doing those things. That we’ll be glad when the other is gone on a trip. I understand needing your own space, especially after so many years of being single. But I also think about all the years of being on my own and what a gift it is to finally be given the gift of a husband. When I was single, I vowed never to forget that if I “found the right one.”
Yeah, I’m a novice. Sure, the years ahead may change my perspective on many things. But what have many of us been missing out on by refusing to understand that hobby, sport, activity or passion? I wonder what would happen if each of us thought about one thing we knew our spouse really enjoyed and initiated taking part in that thing with them sometime in the next few weeks. I wonder what would happen. What stories might come out of those adventures? I’m going to try it.
Well, back to the iPhone. If you have one, check out the “Sleep Cycle” ap. It actually monitors your sleep patterns. And it really works! We get up every morning and compare how much deep/dream sleep we got. I told you we’re geeks!